As I turned the calendar over yesterday to see August, my heart started beating, my chest was tight and my thoughts were all over the place.
What is going to happen? This is a mess. Everything is up in the air. Can I plan anything? Will we make it? Is anything going to be normal? Should I have zero expectations about anything?
I have actually never experienced that before with the turning of a calendar page. But August, you did it, you are the winner. You officially created a panic in my life. I went from everything is okay, to stop, everything has gone wrong. I thought I was doing okay, but nope… not so much. August…
You might be right there with me. You too might feel the pain of the calendar changing, the questions, the confusion, and ultimately the uncertainty of everything. Some of you are teachers, flooded with questions, doubts, and fears. Some of you are in ministry, just wanting to share Jesus with your people. Most of you regardless of your job are feeling limited, trapped, told, and very uncertain.
As I have coached clients it is clear what uncertainty creates. When you feel uncertain you don’t do anything towards your goals or where you really want to be in life. You don’t act confident, and you don’t put yourself out there. You don’t try new things and most importantly you STOP taking action. So uncertainty breeds more uncertainty, and creates you not moving forward.
So how does this affect your dating life? Well, any thought of taking action goes out the window. If you had a glimmer of hope, it has faded. And if you felt confident that this was your year to meet a man, that confidence is buried.
I want to encourage you to hold space in your life for uncertainty because of what is going on in the world, and work to feel certain about what we can.
For those of you wanting to get a result of meeting guys or going on dates, begin thinking about what you can do in this area. Remember your brain will want to offer you all that you can’t. This is where you flip the script for your brain and go to work believing something that you actually have no business believing.
I want to offer you a thought. In the month of August I will meet 3 new guys. Now, immediately your brain will give all the reasons you won’t, or that it is too hard, etc. But, just practicing this new belief and seeing what believing this creates in your life could be fun. I think we need some fun right now, don’t you?
If you did believe that you would meet 3 new guys, or go on 3 dates or whatever you are willing to try and think, you would have to start taking some action. This is the part I want you to focus on. Take action from a place of certainty. None of this I might meet 3 guys or I might go on 3 dates. My thought would be, “I am meeting 3 new guys, watch me…” See how creative your brain can be in solving how can I meet 3 new guys?
Creating certainty, which is actually coming from your thoughts of I can do this, I will do this, this is happening, is available for you to believe. You just may not know that you can think that way. But you can.
I don’t know what the future holds, but I know who holds the future and that helps me feel certain about my ultimate future. But in these times of uncertainty I am practicing certainty in the little things. I am taking actions to make things certain. I don’t know what is going to happen this month but I know today the laundry is getting done. Or, I am not sure about that trip in a couple weeks, but I am certain I am getting cookies at Chick-Fil-a (have you tried those?… amazing). Creating certainty for yourself right now is a good thing. Try it, you might find you can create it in other less certain areas of your life.
Looking forward to who meets new guys in August,
Angie
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